Lets make no mistake here. I am talking about that feeling that blossoms between a male and a female,when they are in search of a partner for life. So when I say 'love' I mean only this.
What do I call love? Or is the question - What does this word mean to the world now?
'Indianism' is a nice term. Combination of a parody and reality. I heard it first from my Communications skills staff,while attending trainings in my company. A term used to describe common mistakes made by Indians in spoken english.Now its a term that defines ALL things that are funny and characteristic of indians. Things we follow,we attempt,we wannabe,we look forward to....
So if love was taken as an Indianism. What is it supposed to mean? What do we really think of love and what do we really want it to be? Simple. This entire affair now is going to be plainly 2 things - What we think of love to be and What we actually EXPECT it to be.
Love is still Taboo isin't it? or so we want everyone to think. When we really don't. We want someone pure,innocent,so good looking,plainly heavenly,angelic,naughty,understanding,magnetic,fun to be with,hot,.... ;) whow! I ve not even run through half my mind and look at the list.
Love is still Taboo isin't it? or so we want everyone to think. When we really don't. We want someone pure,innocent,so good looking,plainly heavenly,angelic,naughty,
Is anything really that perfect in this world? Yes. Love is. why? its a feeling that accepts another person even when they aren't perfect. It evens out the odds and make them perfect - for you. When you step out to the real world. You find people expect exactly this and nothing less from their partners, but however don't really mind bending the rules.
But when you don't play the game by the rules.... how do you expect to be clean? Doesn't love loose its actual form?
The exact reason behind people doing this is Indianism. Savvy? We not only want to be good, little children who obey our parents,friends and relatives, who please them endlessly, but also want an engaging relationship that gets us close to the west. A relationship we want to flash to people,people we meet in our life. A relationship that gives us all the things we yearn for,to stay with us as a dress-rehearsal for our 'real' married life. Literally.
Someone to explore our world, likes,dislikes,desires,
Sex has over the time become part and parcel of all the other goodies offered by such relationships. Talking about SEX. What did you think of when you just read this word here? Or should I ask, HOW did you feel when you read this here?
If you liked the term n yet wanted to show off an air of ignorance. Congratulations! Yr a true Indian.
Everything seems good. Except untill you are at the receiving end. You can cheat on your partner-to-be as many times as you want. But you can only pray you get someone at the other end of the spectrum. When something fishy happens, you can only see the darker side of yourself and you end up suspecting yr partner,facing your own guilt.
You hear your wife talking in awe about her boss, you get reminded of a time you hooked with someone in office. you hear your husband too happy to receive a cal from a junior - you see yourself in a casual realtionship with your neighbour many years ago. Its all you you you - just the darker you! :) funny isin't it?
A simple thing seems so complicated.But then.. what's life without complications? The term 'PRACTICAL' by itself now means something really really really easy to carry out, without breaking a sweat. Example - 'falling in love' with someone and marrying a person of your parents' dreams. Best of both worlds! what a tender offer?
So now in India,a guy who is practical may 'love' whomsoever she wishes,carry out the above mentioned deeds and marry someone else. Similarly a girl can do the same and move on. Fantastic. We seems to have forgotten something. We are still Indians. We do NOT share the mindsets and views of the west.
Now comes the end of the beginning of the end!!! we 'wanna' chase our dreams. We 'wanna' live the life we often dream off. But we also want ourselves to be 'practical'. Crap? totally!!
We demand love as an unopened,tightly-parcelled,
Now I am not saying that every couple that joins hands in a ceremony called marriage is suffering this fate. Oh no!..... I am saying every god-damn couple soon will!! Fate becomes reality. How's that?
All those people out there who are trying to align themselves with the west. Talking american accent,eating junk,dressing up like them,'hanging out' like them,living their lives like them. Ask them to take a pause and look into themselves. Truth is they have got lost in their search for something they really didn't want. Be yourself. You might not be 'cool' and the world might not love you. But you will. And yr the only one who's gonna stay alive and with you as long as you are alive! Poetic ain't it?
Bottom line? Love is just not for everybody. Its only for those who want to live through it and with it.
Can't take the pressure? bow out!
Don't want to face your desire? :-) look at yrself in the mirror!!
Want to play it safe? You are sooooooo out of this league!!!
Want it to be easy and still as you like it?
There's nothing called true love. There s just an interpretation of what 'love' means to you. That is what is real. Nothing else is. Period.
People who feel cheated and left for dead cause of all this 'Love failure'. Live through it. It was a risk,you played it and came out alive - at least.
In a world of cannibals, you need to be the best man-eater.
That's why I loved it when Joker tells the Dark Knight,
"When the chips are down, these "civilized people", they'll eat each other. I'm not a monster. I'm just ahead of the curve. "
Stay ahead of the curve. A meaningful curve.
